Wednesday, September 23, 2009

How do some people sleep at night?

(WARNING: THE FOLLOWING IS ME VENTING, YOU ARE UNDER NO OBLIGATION TO SUFFER THROUGH IT.)

Lately, Jacob and I have had numerous experiences with people where we just have asked ourselves : "How do they sleep at night?" It's amazing how few people there are in this world that seem to care about other's feelings. I know that no one is perfect (me being on the top of that list.) But gees, would it really kill us to stop and think about someone else for a change? Below are some instances that have led us to question just how these people sleep at night:

1. What's the fun in taking advantage of others? Seriously, nothing in life is for free. If someone does something nice for you, return the favor, or at least say thank you.

2. If you can't say something nice, just don't say it. The occasional sincere compliment never killed anyone.

3. Sometimes we just have to say things we don't want to say, in those cases...use a little tact. Seriously, chewing people out isn't going to put you on anyone's best friend list.

4. I hate nothing more than empty promises, you don't promise someone something and then never deliver.

5. What happened to good old fashioned listening? I hate repeating myself over and over to people. I understand sometimes people need to be reminded once or twice, but on the tenth time I start to feel like you just don't care.

6. Where are the "please's" and "thank you's"? I swear they've disappeared from most people's vocabulary.

7. Treat people equally, seriously don't play favorites, you're not fooling anyone.

8. It doesn't hurt to do at least one random act of kindness per day for someone you don't know. So instead of being "the jerk who cut them off," you could be "the polite stranger that finally let me pull out onto the street." (This certainly helps me sleep at night.)

9. I don't understand the mentality of "if I can't see it, it's not there." So many people push problems under the rug and never talk about them or try to solve them. Get it out in the open, it'll be messy for a minute but then you'll feel much better and you'll be able to sleep much easier at night.

10. And finally, if you realize that you might have hurt someone else, just apologize, it never hurts to apologize even if it is years overdue.

I enjoy my sleep at night (even though it's not happening now) so if I've ever been less than nice to you...put it on the table, let me know, I want nothing more than to make things right. I don't want anyone to be victims of these instances (or any others for that matter) on my behalf.

2 comments:

Rachel said...

Wow, it sounds like people in your neck of the woods aren't very nice! Have you had some bad experiences with other people a lot lately? Maybe you could move back to the 'Nati; we'd love that! ;)

Kacie said...

Sorry you've run into some jerky people. Sometimes we forget what this life is really about and get caught up in ourselves. I hate letting people down or causing conflict of any kind so I try to stay out of it but in the end you get wrapped up into the drama. I hope all is going well for you and that you can get some "good sleep" tonight provided your new baby sleeps. One of my favorite quotes is..."sometimes people are going down the only path that they know." It helps me out a lot when I feel like someone wronged me, maybe that's all they know and yeah they should have common sense to fix it but it's harder than you can believe to cahnge habits like that. Hope you meet nicer people tomorrow:)!